Nico, the gear lever needs a positive attitude
PeteF, I gave up waggling a car gear stick mebbe 30 years ago after I counted well over 1000 changes getting 10 miles to work, waste of effort - automatic.
Nigel, it does rather beggar the question, "can you count to five?", and on occasions, apparently I can't.
Myself, I can enter a corner and find it tighter than expected and be in the wrong gear, so gently prodding the gear lever down will dump it into neutral. I think I'm in third but was in second and found neutral. Using more application usually puts it into first which it too low. Imo it wants a lower 2nd or higher 1st gear.